Simplify: This explains it. Just keeping life simple. Complicating and overthinking can ruin most happiness.
Settle: Never settle for a relationship or a marriage. I’m slowly working through this. If you “settle” it’s almost a guaranteed death sentence to unhappiness.
Goals: Create a few small goals each week. Goals that are very attainable. The small goals will lead to the bigger ones.
Instant gratification: Take that shit out of your vocabulary. Whatever it is that you chase, for that “feel” good moment won’t last. Build slowly, even with relationships. Patience is a hard trait to practice, but once you have it, happiness comes easier.
People pleasing: Just stop(ok, I’m talking to myself) but accept you can not and will not please everyone. And if you try, you will live a miserable unhappy life while you lose yourself in the process. Be thoughtful, kind, and caring, but remember to give yourself those 3 things before sharing it with other people.
Control: Give it up! That is unless it has to do with you, what you control. Maybe you are dating someone you want to desperately change? Let it go. Accept them for exactly who they are, if you can’t do that, set them free. So many things in life we don’t control, and so much time is wasted trying to do the impossible. Many hours a day can be wasted being upset over shit we have no control over.
Money: Seriously, quit worrying or obsessing about it. I know it’s easier said than done. Once you find something you are good at, double down on that, and money and freedom will follow.
Other people: Yep, most people. Who gives a shit what others think about you. I’m slowly dissecting “why” I care so much what others think. And each day I get close to the chains that keep me attached to others opinions on me. It’s my life, and not theirs. Either you want to be part of my mission or not. I’m who I am, and unless it’s a toxic trait, I’m not changing for anyone.
Quality: This could be the food you put in you body, the friends you spend the most time with or that partner you decided to do a long term relationship with. Choose quality over everything else. Know your worth and don’t let those in that dampen yours.
Self sabotage: Maybe it’s food, over spending, binge drinking, hell, maybe it’s all the above. Stop it, or seek out help to change your ways. Nothing more will ruin happiness than chasing distractions from yourself. Happiness is found, once you can sit with yourself, and enjoy your own company. And be ok with that. Not a small feat, many, many never achieve it.
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